Is Gay Marriage Irrelevant?

By Julie Roys

By Julie Roys

What I’m about to say is irrelevant. At least that’s what a Christian brother who tries to build bridges with the gay community recently told me. You see, I believe Christians should oppose gay marriage; but, this brother says whether civil governments allow gays to marry or not is of no consequence. After all, gays already can adopt and their agenda is promoted in the public schools. Already, children are exposed to gay couples, forcing Christian parents to discuss the topic with their kids. Legalizing gay marriage, he says, will change nothing, he says. But opposing same-sex marriage, this brother argues, will continue to alienate a community that Jesus longs to reach.

The latter point, I concede, is a regrettable consequence of opposing gay marriage. And, I suppose if I agreed that same-sex marriage is inconsequential, that point alone would motivate me to drop my opposition. But same-sex marriage is not inconsequential: it threatens the family, society, the church, and even Christianity itself.

I realize that’s a bold claim. But understand, marriage is not the end game for gay activists; it’s simply a plank in a much broader agenda. And, at the end of that agenda is abolishing traditional marriage altogether.

In 1972, the National Coalition of Gay Organizations met in Chicago and devised an action plan. This plan included infiltrating public schools, presenting homosexuality as a valid, healthy lifestyle, and permitting child custody and adoption. It also called for the repeal of all legislative provisions restricting the sex or number of persons entering into a marriage unit. In other words, gay activists eventually want to legalize polygamous and even group marriages.

Two years ago, gay activists took out a full-page ad in the New York Times to publish a statement called “Beyond Gay Marriage.” This statement boldly advocated governmental recognition of diverse kinds of households and families, including those with “more than one conjugal partner.” About the same time, Advocate magazine ran an article describing a Massachusetts man who cohabitates with his wife and two male lovers. The article described the quartet as the “queer version of Big Love” – an HBO drama series featuring a man who has three wives. But it gets worse.

As Douglas Kmiec, a law professor at Pepperdine University, writes, “judicial approval of same-sex ‘marriage’ will metastasize into the larger culture.” This, he argues, will result in a push to demonize and punish faith communities that refuse to bless homosexual unions. Already, the Obama administration has hinted that the government may refuse financial aid to students attending colleges with prohibitions against homosexuality. Also, the proposed federal hate crimes legislation threatens to punish anyone who even speaks out against homosexual behavior.

Lastly, Christians need to realize that legitimizing homosexuality de-legitimizes Christianity since the Bible holds that homosexuality is wrong.

Legalizing gay marriage is not irrelevant. And should it happen, Christian parents may not merely have to explain homosexuality to their children. They may also need to explain why Mr. Smith has a husband and a wife; why their teacher believes Jesus was a bigot; and why their pastor can’t read certain portions of Scripture to the congregation.



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5 thoughts on “Is Gay Marriage Irrelevant?”

  1. thanks for speaking the truth. How can I excerpt this and give proper credit? I’ve been asked to write as the “Chicago Catholic Parenting” commentator for Your blog entries inspire me to write. I don’t expect huge exposure, but I want to give credit where credit is due.

  2. Julie should be commended for speaking the truth. She can expect to be vilified by the radical “gay rights” organizations. The truths of scripture do not change with time. If America chooses to go down the path advocated by the “gay rights” activists, destruction is assured. God has been patient with America, because many Americans still hold to the truth. But God cannot be mocked without dire consequences.

  3. Thanks for your posts. They’re encouraging. Sorry, I was a bit negligent last week replying. Feel free to quote me at examiner. com As long as you attribute the quote, I’m fine with it. May God bless your writing!

  4. If God hates homosexuals, then why did he create them? Afterall, according to Christians, God created everything. Even if you say that Satan made homosexuality, why doesn’t God thwart this “injustice”? Why does God let his people “suffer”?

    How can you say that same-sex marriage “threatens the family, society, the church, and even Christianity itself” when you have no proof? Some states do allow same-sex marriage, and they aren’t any better than all of the other states.

    You also stated that in 1972, the National Coalition of Gay Organizations with the intents on legalising polygamous marriages. 1972 was quite some time ago, and just because some people support it, doesn’t mean that everyone does. It would be like if I implied that all Christians perform flagellants just because some Christians did it quite some time ago. You should judge people individually and not by the group that they are labled with.

    You also say that homosexuality de-legitimizes Christianity because it’s a sin. Coveting is a sin. It says that in the Bible. In fact, it’s one of the Ten Commandments:

    “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s. (Exodus 20:17)”

    … why don’t we hate the people who want something that isn’t theirs, eh?

    Isn’t the main focus of Christianity to love one another? Treat people with respect and do no harm onto them? If God tells us to love everyone, and he created homosexuals and homosexuality, then he wanted us to love them. Why else would he create them? Allow them to live? Allow them to be born from heterosexual individuals?

    Please. Keep this in your heart. Just love.

  5. Dear M,
    God doesn’t hate people who identify as homosexual and neither do I. It’s just that I believe the biblical narrative of creation, fall, and redemption — not the one offered by the gay rights lobby.
    In other words, I believe God made us in his image, male and female (Gen. 1:27) — not gay, straight, lesbian and transgendered. Because we rebelled, sin entered the world and perverted all of creation — including our sexuality. This is what causes pain, not society’s rejection of alternative lifestyles.
    However, through Christ and the cross, the effects of the fall can be reversed. And yes, even our sexuality can be redeemed and our desires redirected. The Bible teaches that this redemption, which frees people from sin’s bondage, leads to life — not gay marriage.

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