Is there something wrong with me? Am I the only one who sees this? How do I get out of here because everywhere I turn, there’s a wall?
These are the questions that often plague those caught in a spiritually abusive system, explained Wade Mullen, director of the MDiv program at Capital Seminary & Graduate School, during his talk at Restore Chicago. Deep down, victims know something is terribly wrong. But they often feel guilty for even thinking there’s a problem, let alone expressing their conviction.
This is likely why many people were so profoundly impacted by Wade’s talk at Restore. I had one person tell me that she cried throughout the entire talk because it was like removing scales from her eyes. Also, rather than shaming her for feeling that something was wrong, Wade named the problem and explained why what she had experienced was spiritual abuse, not spiritual care.
I wish every Christian in leadership could hear this talk. Spiritual abuse is rampant in the church and sadly, going unchecked. But as we become educated, I’m convinced we can begin to contain this epidemic and hopefully, stamp it out.
My apologies for the soft focus at the beginning of the video. The problem is corrected after the first 12 minutes.
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ICYMI, there are three other RESTORE talks currently available:
- Lina AbuJamra’s raw and vulnerable Letter of Forgiveness Over Church Hurt
- Nancy Beach on How to Survive Abuse with Your Faith Intact
- My talk on An Unmistakable Move of God