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Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter Mark 75 Years of ‘Full Partnership’ in Marriage

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Jimmy Carter and his wife Rosalynn, seen here at a 1978 Christmas Ball at the White House, celebrate their 75th anniversary on July 7, 2021. (AP Photo/Ira Schwarz)

The young midshipman needed a date one evening while he was home from the U.S. Naval Academy, so his younger sister paired him with a family friend who already had a crush.

Nearly eight decades later, Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter are still together in the same tiny town where they were born, grew up and had that first outing. In between, they’ve traveled the world as Naval officer and military spouse, American president and first lady, and finally as human rights and public health ambassadors.

“It’s a full partnership,” the 39th president said during a joint interview ahead of the couple’s 75th wedding anniversary on July 7.

It is another milestone for the longest-married presidential couple in American history. At 96, Carter also is the longest-lived of the 45 men who’ve served as chief executive. Yet even having reached that pinnacle, Carter has said often since leaving the Oval Office in 1981 that the most important decision he ever made wasn’t as head of state, commander in chief or even executive officer of a nuclear submarine in the early years of the Cold War.

Rather, it was falling for Eleanor Rosalynn Smith in 1945 and marrying her the following summer. “My biggest secret is to marry the right person if you want to have a long-lasting marriage,” Carter said.

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The nonagenarians — she’s now 93 — offered a few other tips for an enduring bond.

“Every day there needs to be reconciliation and communication between the two spouses,” the former president said, explaining that he and Rosalynn, both devout Christians, read the Bible together aloud each night — something they’ve done for years, even when separated by their travels. “We don’t go to sleep with some remaining differences between us,” he said.

Rosalynn Carter noted the importance of finding common interests. Even now, she said, “Jimmy and I are always looking for things to do together.” Still, she emphasized a caveat: “Each (person) should have some space. That’s really important.”

As first lady, Rosalynn Carter carved her own identity even as she supported her husband. Building on her predecessors’ efforts to highlight special causes, she went to work in her own East Wing office, setting a standard for first ladies by working alongside her husband’s West Wing aides on key legislation, especially dealing with health care and mental health. She continued that focus as the couple built the Carter Center in Atlanta after their White House years.

Certainly, a 75-year marriage hasn’t been seamless, the couple acknowledges.

Jimmy was initially on course to be an admiral, not commander in chief, and Rosalynn appreciated their life beyond Plains, home to fewer than a thousand people, then and now. But when James Earl Carter Sr. became sick and died in 1953, his son cut short his Navy career and decided the family would return to rural Georgia.

The former president has written that in retrospect he finds it inconceivable not to discuss such a life-changing decision with his wife, who was unhappy with the move. Now, they see the blossoming of their partnership in that challenging juncture.

“We developed a partnership when we were working in the farm supply business, and it continued when Jimmy got involved in politics,” Rosalynn Carter told AP. “I knew more on paper about the business than he did. He would take my advice about things,” she added, drawing a laugh and affirmation from her husband.

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Former President Jimmy Carter and his wife Rosalynn arrive for a ribbon cutting ceremony for a solar panel project on farmland he owns in their hometown of Plains, Ga. (AP Photo/David Goldman)

Jimmy Carter also didn’t seek Rosalynn’s permission to make his first bid for office a few years later. In that instance, she was on board anyway.

“My wife is much more political,” he said.

She interjected: “I love it. I love campaigning. I had the best time. I was in all the states in the United States. I campaigned solid every day the last time we ran.”

That didn’t help avoid a rout by Republican Ronald Reagan in 1980. But it further cemented Rosalynn — who’d originally given up her own opportunity to go to college when she married at age 18 — as equal partner to the leader of the free world. And it marked Jimmy Carter’s evolution as a spouse.

He’s since been an outspoken voice for women’s rights, including within Christianity. Carter left the Southern Baptist Convention in 2006, denouncing what he called “rigid” views that “subjugated” women in the church and in their own marriages.

The former president ratified those views again, as well as his support for the church recognizing same-sex marriage. “It will continue to be divisive,” he said. “But the church is evolving.”

The Carters plan to celebrate their own marriage milestone a few days after their anniversary with a party in Plains. Decades removed from inaugural balls and state dinners, the most famous residents of Sumter County said they have mixed feelings about the spotlight.

“We have too many people invited,” Rosalynn Carter said with a laugh. “I’m actually praying for some turndowns and regrets.”

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14 Responses

  1. My parents were young newlyweds when they had the opportunity to meet the Carters, who left them with a lasting impression and unforgettable words on the importance of putting faith and family at the center of everything.
    75 years! Wow, what a blessing – yet not a surprise. Congrats!

  2. I’ve long admired the Carters and wish them the very best as they celebrate this anniversary!

  3. I have read through both “Sources of Strength” and “Through the Year with Jimmy Carter: 366 Daily Meditations from the 39th President”. These books are loaded with Scripture, practical and encouraging- well written by Carter himself drawn from his many years faithfully teaching adult Sunday School (even while serving as President).

  4. Two admirable people who have truly sought to live out their faith…before God and in faithfulness to each other. I particularly admire the lack of ego in their statements. Thanks for this article!

  5. It is really disappointing to see them support same sex marriage. As well as abortion. Satan is a deceiver and liar and you have been seduced by him in these areas. Time to repent first couple. Romans 1 is very clear. Psalm 139 is very clear. Please reread. TY very much

    1. John:

      What do you think Trump should repent of? Most evangelicals would say nothing and I very much disagree.

    2. Thank heavens we have you to gatekeep everyone else’s theology.
      Why not just celebrate these two rare and amazing public examples of evangelical Christians who are thoughtful, generous, dedicated and attractive people? But no, you had to pour cold water on this inspiring article, Reverend.

  6. Anyone would have to be impressed with such a record in view of the present-day lack of marital fidelity/commitment. I believe they are two decent, loving, serving individuals. However, let’s not act as if they are worthy of emulation in the spiritual dimension. If decades of Bible study (for his famous Sunday School class) have led him to such disastrous views as his are regarding abortion, same-sex marriage, etc., then these are not people we need to model our spiritual lives after. May God have mercy on them as they near the end of their lives. They still have a “season to repent.”

      1. Just like every other poor, guilty sinner, Trump should repent for everything in his life that does not glorify God. But I don’t quite understand what that has to do with my comment on the Carters. ???

        1. @David
          I think Tom’s point is that many Christians are quick to point out the sins that Democrats need to repent of, while remaining silent, justifying or downplaying the sins of Republicans – especially Trump. And it is the latter that has contributed to the compromise and demise of our influence as the church.
          We tend to blame our declining influence on Democrats, the world, liberalism, wokeism, covid, and the list goes on….but when it comes to the stain of hypocritically justifying the sins of Republicans, we start stuttering and deflecting.

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